Friday, November 14, 2008

The Zombification of America.

In the past, parent's knew how to be parents and there was no such thing as 'oppositional defiance disorder' if a kid misbehaved he was considered to be a 'brat' and got disciplined. Parents weren't concerned about a child's self-esteem, their only concern was to raise a responsible adult. Parents weren't afraid to discipline even if it mean the occasional application of a hand to a child's bottom. Kid's learned to behave because they knew, without a doubt, that there would be consequences. And they grew up to be responsible adults.

Now, parent's are either afraid to discipline or they are too lazy and self-absorbed to be bothered. 'Experts' preach to parents that they must nurture the self-esteem at all costs and children must never be punished lest it harm their fragile psyche. So, as a consequence, we have a nation where we have an increasing incidence of drug abuse, teen sex and pregnancy, crime, school shootings etc. because kids are growing up with no morals - no sense of right and wrong.

More than half the children we see in the ER are on some form of psychiatric med, Ritalin, Abilify, Depakote, Risperdal and so on. Let's drug them all into little zombies, they'll sit quietly in class so the class sizes can be larger, and the state will save money. Let's drug them all into little zombies so they won't bug mom and dad. Who cares what the long term consequences are. Who cares what the long term effects are on their developing brains. As long as they sit still and behave now without and adult having to be bothered to interact with them it's all good, right.

12 comments:

Amanda in AK said...

From a teacher's perspective it's just sad. We don't have many kids on meds at our school. We do have people paid to shadow violent kids, teach them consequences and learning to control themselves. They're paid to do the jobs the parents never did. I get the joy and pain of helping a few FAS/FASE kids, and kids we suspect mom of having one two many beers when preggers, but there is not hard evidence, just the nagging feeling in the pits of our stomachs.

crankylitprof said...

Meanwhile, I have blood relatives who think I am the meanest parent in the WORLD because I actually force my kids to take/have responsibility, and I punish them when they do something wrong.

We wonder why we have a nation of self-absorbed, selfish, lazy little sociopaths who think about nothing but what they want...

Anonymous said...

It's funny. When I was young (long ago), people let infants run their lives and taught children to behave.

An infant slept, ate, played and basically did whatever he wanted while the parents lived around the child.

Now people make babies live around their schedules - they eat, sleep and play when and what then parents want.

Then they grow up to be children and suddenly their self esteem is more critical than anything else and no one can tell them "no, you can't behave like that."

Sounds like a way to create sick adults - doesn't it?

Charissa said...

I sometimes hate having to be the enforcer, and feel like the only thing I do is tell my kids no, but then I look around the store or bus or airplane and realize it's worth it because they're not running around, screaming,and making things miserable for everyone else. And what's with people not taking their screaming kids out of the store? If I dared to throw a fit as a child I was promptly smacked on the bum and carried out like a sack of potatoes.

Nurse K said...

I hate it when a mom signs in a 13 or 14 year old with "acting out" or "behavior problem" and the first thing the mom says is "she needs a med adjustment!" HATE IT!

Anonymous said...

OMG. You are so right. My kids think I'm a horrible parent because I do disipline them. I remember feeling the same way when I was a kid and am now grateful they loved me enough to discipline way. I'm sure some day they will thank me. We are raising a nation of self absorbed instant gratification adults. Spare the rod and spoil the child!

SuperBadJack said...

I'm 22, I think my generation is the last one to have had a chance, me and the group of friends I grew up with all got smacked around (not abused) when we did something stupid.

I remember when I was 8 and we got into a dumpster and ended up playing with construction materials, I forget who did what, but my brother and his friend got completely covering in roofing adhesive.

We were all disciplined for our stupidity.

I also remember throwing a fit in a store for something or other that I wanted, my Mom promptly grabbed the back of my head by the hair and lifted straight up (Seriously, try it, it hurts) almost lifting my tiny self off the ground. The tears of tantrum turned into tears of pain. Suddenly I didn't want that toy anymore and I didn't act up for a loooong while.

It might have been SIMS (Short Italian Mom Syndrome), but it created two wonderfully adjusted men after years of keeping us on the right track.

erarein63 said...

It continually astounds me the number of kids on psych meds these days. I agree, a quick swift swat to the buttocks would solve a lot! De ;)_

jGrrl said...

My daughter's school tried to push the meds on us because she was easily distracted, a bit tired, didn't 'fit in' with her peers - somehow they thought drugs were the answer. Not my child. Period. Great post.

I did post *here* sort of along these lines and a friend sent me the link to your post (this one) because she thought I'd appreciate your thoughts on it.

Thank you for sharing.

mojitogirl said...

Forget about medicating the kids.....THE PARENTS are the ones in need of medication!

Anonymous said...

In the country I live in it is now ILLEGAL to physically discipline your child...
Thats right....
ILLEGAL.
You can be arrested for smacking your child on the bottom for attempting to burn down the apartment block....
Or stealing, or blah blah blah...

So look out, coz from here on in all the kids are gonna be little s**ts and they will grow up to be huge morons....


AND the amount of these kids on medications is AMAZING...

I don't think the government was too forward thinking when they passed that legislation....

C. S. P. Schofield said...

1) Children are uncivilized.

2) Children learn to become civilized by having it born in on them how very unpleasant life will be if they are NOT civilized.

2a) #2 also applies to terrorists, if I may digress.

3) Anyone who wants children to "act naturally" must enjoy being surrounded at all times by savages.